My why. The fire in my belly

All emotional learning is change and all change is co-created. To find out about the unknown deep within, between us and all around us, we must first open up to new possibilities, to allow ourselves to be moved from a fixed starting position.

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Dr Jessica Bolton

Head of Attuned Connection

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June 6, 2019

My why.  The fire in my belly.

I am passionate about connection and building emotional capacity in myself and others.

I’m deeply grateful for the formal training I have received and the inspiring teachers I have had. However, I feel strongly that our emotional capacity grows most effectively by intimate experiential moments, the profound moments of meeting within ourselves and between us which can be as likely when connecting wholeheartedly on a bus with a stranger as in a workshop with amazing presenters.

All emotional learning is change and all change is co-created.  To find out about the unknown deep within, between us and all around us, we must first open up to new possibilities, to allow ourselves to be moved from a fixed starting position.  Powerful, transformative learning occurs in systems that are open and flexible to newness.

I’m enthusiastic about creating wholehearted connections which build emotional capacity.  The challenge in today’s society is how to do this - with junk connection being more easily accessible than joyful, deep connection; and with the individualised focus we have - that I change myself and you change yourself.

So creating platforms that enable us to connect and learn together with substance and longevity, is the fire in my belly.  What might this look like?

  • An online presence and physical events for face to face human connection
  • With ways to hold each others’ hands through the great joy, delight, excitement, grief and pain of emotional development.
  • Promoting safety and a learning edge; regulation when we are overwhelmed; and inviting, with pressure and challenge when we are holding back or coasting.

Facilitating profound moments of meeting that translate to the change that makes a difference in our lives and the lives of our patients, this is the challenge we face ahead.  Making a space for us to connect, play, and for us to grow, not because of a wise other but because of our togetherness, courage, interest, capacity and because of us not being afraid to let the light inside all of us shine.

Further Reading
I'm a tug boat. Who knew!
Co-creating change and never giving up.
July 5, 2019
My journey to emotional health
I have always had an acute awareness that my deep-down fulfilment would only be satisfied if I could bring joy to, and facilitate positive change in others… but I wasn’t sure how. As I bathe in the tide of emotional outpouring from speaker after speaker, I realise I might just have found the perfect place to start.
June 25, 2019