My why. The fire in my belly

All emotional learning is change and all change is co-created. To find out about the unknown deep within, between us and all around us, we must first open up to new possibilities, to allow ourselves to be moved from a fixed starting position.

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Dr Jessica Bolton

Head of Attuned Connection

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April 11, 2019

My why.  The fire in my belly.

I am passionate about connection and building emotional capacity in myself and others.

I’m deeply grateful for the formal training I have received and the inspiring teachers I have had. However, I feel strongly that our emotional capacity grows most effectively by intimate experiential moments, the profound moments of meeting within ourselves and between us which can be as likely when connecting wholeheartedly on a bus with a stranger as in a workshop with amazing presenters.

All emotional learning is change and all change is co-created.  To find out about the unknown deep within, between us and all around us, we must first open up to new possibilities, to allow ourselves to be moved from a fixed starting position.  Powerful, transformative learning occurs in systems that are open and flexible to newness.

I’m enthusiastic about creating wholehearted connections which build emotional capacity.  The challenge in today’s society is how to do this - with junk connection being more easily accessible than joyful, deep connection; and with the individualised focus we have - that I change myself and you change yourself.

So creating platforms that enable us to connect and learn together with substance and longevity, is the fire in my belly.  What might this look like?

  • An online presence and physical events for face to face human connection
  • With ways to hold each others’ hands through the great joy, delight, excitement, grief and pain of emotional development.
  • Promoting safety and a learning edge; regulation when we are overwhelmed; and inviting, with pressure and challenge when we are holding back or coasting.

Facilitating profound moments of meeting that translate to the change that makes a difference in our lives and the lives of our patients, this is the challenge we face ahead.  Making a space for us to connect, play, and for us to grow, not because of a wise other but because of our togetherness, courage, interest, capacity and because of us not being afraid to let the light inside all of us shine.

Further Reading
Readying Ourselves for Emotional Learning: Part 2
Last week I wrote about getting ready for learning, emotional learning especially, by preparing to cope with not knowing, and moreover to move towards newness with delight and enthusiasm! I have learnt so much about this from my colleagues and friends, Terry and Beatriz Sheldon.
May 10, 2019
Readying Ourselves for Emotional Learning: Part 1
How do we ensure we are primed to learn new skills and knowledge? And how can we particularly ready ourselves for emotional learning? What is our responsibility as attendees?
May 10, 2019